Kids Going Away to College?
Why You Should Include Estate Planning in the Preparation
You have likely been preparing for weeks to get your new college student off to school. It is exhilarating, and your heart may be bursting at the seams. You are probably prouder than words can express but also afraid. How can you ensure your child is safe at their new home away from home? A new matching sheet set for their dorm room does not seem like enough, does it? So, what else can you do? While this is probably not on your to-do list, bringing your child to a local estate planning attorney can make all the difference.
Although your child has graduated from high school and reached adulthood, they may still want you by their side if they get sick. However, medical care decisions are legally theirs alone after they turn 18. If they were to become unconscious after a serious accident, you could not authorize medical care or make decisions about a treatment plan without first going to court. The court process would delay your ability to advocate for your child, and your appointment as guardian would ultimately be up to the judge.
We do not want to worry you unnecessarily, but the unfortunate reality is that a significant number of people between 18 and 25 years old wind up in hospitals every year, and their parents are often kept out of the loop when it comes to making critical decisions.
Therefore, most experienced estate planning practitioners recommend that everyone over the age of 18 have a basic estate plan that includes a will, a financial power of attorney, and medical directives that allow someone they trust to act on their behalf if they are unable to advocate for themselves or make medical decisions. While it is important that your child have the proper tools to ensure that their wishes are known and that trusted people will act on their behalf, they can choose whomever they want to fill these roles. These important roles do not have to be given to you.
Here are some things to take care of before you drop your child off at college:
- FERPA release. The Family Educational Rights and Privacy Act (FERPA) is designed to protect college students’ privacy, but it can leave parents locked out in an emergency. A properly worded release, signed by your child, allows school officials to talk with you and release your child’s records to you.
- HIPAA authorization. The Health Insurance Portability and Accountability Act (HIPAA) seeks to protect patients’ privacy. Consider having your child sign an authorization form just in case so that doctors can talk to you about your child’s condition, care, and treatment.
- Durable financial power of attorney. This legal document allows you to take care of your child’s checking or savings accounts, bills, and other finances if your child is unable to—whether due to illness or location (for example, if the school is on the other side of the country or abroad).
- Medical power of attorney. Like the financial power of attorney, this document allows you to handle medical decisions for your child if your child is unable to do so.
- Advance directive or living will. This tool allows your child to state their wishes regarding end-of-life care. Although we hope this tool is unnecessary, it provides the medical decision-maker with additional information to help them make the right decisions on your child’s behalf.
At first glance, this may seem a little silly for the average, often broke, college kid. However, most young adults do have property or accounts they may want to plan for if something were to happen to them. For example, according to Dashlane, a company that offers secure, online password managers and digital wallets, a typical email account is tied to 130 or more online accounts,[1] each potentially with their own usernames and passwords. Does your child have thoughts about who should manage their social media and email accounts? Do they want someone to receive valuable gaming accounts? Or do they want all their apps and accounts closed at their passing?
College Is a New Chapter — Make Sure Everyone’s Ready
As your child steps into this exciting season of independence, it’s natural to focus on dorm supplies, class schedules, and late-night goodbye hugs. But just as you’ve packed their shower caddy and helped them set up a student account, making sure they have the right legal protections in place is another way you can keep showing up for them — even from miles away.
These documents aren’t about fear — they’re about peace of mind. For you. For your child. And for whatever the road ahead brings.
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